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The 39-page Broken Marriage Assessment is an innovative and valuable downloadable and PDF fillable resource if you are experiencing an unhappy marriage and considering divorce. It will help you better understand your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and empower you to take the necessary steps to move your relationship toward either repair or termination, with confidence. If you are feeling stuck and not sure if you should stay or leave because your unhappy marriage is too good to leave too bad to stay, this relationship book will bring clarity.

The marriage book offers practical process questions and relationship homework assignments about the stages of marriage at the end of each section to help you achieve your desired goals. These assignments are designed to be actionable and effective in either fixing a troubled relationship or making the difficult decision to end an unhealthy marriage.

The tool measures four distinct stages of your relationship: 1. Awareness, 2. Contemplation, 3. Emotional preparation, and 4. Action.

Five key areas of connection within each stage are taken into consideration to help you gain clarity and insight into your marriage problems. Let’s take a look at these.

The first area evaluated in each stage of marriage is “Emotional Connection With Your Spouse.” An emotional connection is a deep bond beyond physical attraction that involves trust, empathy, and mutual understanding. It fosters closeness, security, and support for each other's emotional well-being in a fulfilling and healthy marriage or long-term partnerships. 

When your relationship enters the first stage, you may feel a general sense of discontentment, with feelings of sadness, frustration, or disconnection from your spouse. As you move through the relationship stages, this emotional distance may increase, leading to feelings of resentment, anger, and feeling like an unhappy couple.

The second area evaluated in each stage is the "Relationship Dynamics.” This refers to what is happening in your unhappy relationship. It is the patterns and processes that shape the interaction and connection between you and your spouse in the marital relationship. It includes the ways in which you communicate, relate to each other, and respond to changing circumstances over time.

When your relationship enters stage one in this category, you may begin to identify specific relationship problems in your relationship, such as communication issues, lack of intimacy, or other challenges. These relationship problems may become more pronounced as you move through the stages of marriage, leading to a growing sense of unhappiness or dissatisfaction. Understanding and managing relationship dynamics is crucial for building and maintaining healthy, fulfilling, and sustainable relationships.

The third area evaluated in each stage is “What Family Life Looks Like.” Family life is essential to your marital relationship because it shapes the shared experiences, memories, and challenges that you face together. Family life provides a context for you and your spouse’s communication, decision-making, and problem-solving. It influences the development of your individual and shared identities.

When your unhappy relationship enters stage one in this category, you will experience a noticeable increase in tension, relationship conflict, and strain in your relationship. This will decrease your emotional connection, intimacy, and sense of purpose. As you move through the stages, you will experience a higher level of relationship unhappiness with an increase in issues such as parenting disagreements, financial strain, or other challenges that impact family life. 

The fourth area evaluated in each of the stages of marriage is “Individuality and Togetherness” as it relates to you, your spouse, and your relationship problems. Individuality and togetherness are both important to a happy marriage because they allow you and your partner to maintain your own unique identity while also fostering a sense of closeness and emotional connection within the relationship. It is important for both of you to have your own interests, hobbies, and social life outside of the marriage, as this can promote personal growth and prevent feelings of resentment or suffocation.

When your relationship enters stage one in this category, you will see a slight movement and devotion away from shared experiences and intimacy with your partner. As you move through the stages of marriage, you will experience almost nonexistent togetherness and time focused on your individual interests.

The fifth area evaluated in each stage is “The Role of Your Social Life.” The role of social life in your marriage is important because it can provide opportunities for you and your spouse to connect with others, pursue common interests, and create shared experiences. A fulfilling social life can contribute to a sense of personal fulfillment and relationship happiness, and can help to strengthen the emotional bond you and your spouse share. Social interactions can also provide a valuable outlet for stress relief and personal growth. However, it is important for couples to strike a balance between their individual and shared social lives, and to communicate openly about their needs and expectations in this area. 

When your relationship enters stage one in this category, you will notice a shift in who you spend your social time with. As you move through the stages of marriage, there will be a decrease in how much time you spend with shared couple friends and more with individual friends. Feelings of isolation or disconnection from your spouse and social circle increase.

Overall, the Broken Marriage Assessment is a powerful tool for anyone with relationship problems or facing the decision of whether to stay or leave their marriage. By evaluating key areas such as communication, trust, intimacy, and conflict resolution, the assessment provides a comprehensive evaluation of the state of your relationship. But the benefits go beyond just evaluation – the relationship assessment also provides guidance on how to move forward. Whether you choose to stay or leave, the assessment will help you gain clarity, identify specific areas of concern, and provide a roadmap for improving your relationship, fixing a broken marriage, or navigating the separation process if you are thinking about divorce. With a personalized and confidential approach, the Broken Marriage Assessment offers a supportive and empowering way to make the best decision for you and your family. Either way, you gain clarity and direction on your path forward.

Length: 39 pages